So What Do you Do? A Peek Behind The Curtain

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A few days ago I tried to write a post in the throes of a migraine, which I didn’t judge to be especially bad. I had to stop writing when the icepick in my head became too severe to see clearly, and I couldn’t sit upright (or anything approximating upright) any longer. The next day, I was more than a bit horrified when I opened this draft and started to correct the errors, since the post looked more like a herd of wildlife had stampeded across my keyboard than like an actual sentient being had set out to say something intelligible. After about 10 minutes of correcting, I stopped, too demoralized and headache-y to try to decipher any more of what I had written.

Tonight I had an idea. Rather than trying to finish cleaning up the post, and rather than complete it- as astoundingly poignant as my thoughts on the topic would be for you to read- I thought it might be even more interesting for you to get a glimpse of my brain on migraine. In fairness, this has already been prettied up quite a bit, and this was attempted on a day when I thought I was well enough to write in the first place- already a level of functionality above a truly “bad” day for me.

But here, for your reading enjoyment (if you are a masochistic type), is the draft of the beginning of the post (cringe with me, not at me):

I loove this question, which pervaades socoity, but is especially poignant and painful w? ith ou painful with cdhow o ouine y defunic pain follks: “So what do you do?” Meaninng ” ” rrself? How are you really?oua e re hehniverse/?”
What is your placeisn t

And if your aree chronciab;y ill, the ansewwer is ? ” Nothing.”

I am nothing . I do nthing. I feel liek nothing, ki contirid\bet nkting. I am worth notinhngs. In a world complromprised f doers ond achieverers, the chronicalyy ill ar faillers. We do notiing. We survivalle- a hurcuxculean feat, but one that doesn’t garner a paycjhjeck or earn an award. It earns no acccolades and gets ni props. Sure, it keeps you out ofn hospital, on a good day, but even that is truly beyond your beyond your control- and even it is wasn’t , it hardly makes for scintiliattining cocktail tallk.

So, wat do I do? I can tell yo uwhat I usedd to do. I can tel you what I wish I did. But what i reve allly do is rpretty boring. Why this is the this the getting to koow-you-question is beynd me, but it eliably is. So what is the right answer?

Sometimes I make up stuff. Smetimes I tell peple what I couldd have b een. Sometimes I am honest adn I say I d nothng. That is sure a buzz kill, but it’s also my kind of my kinnd of in-yor-fec- answwer. Like if you wabt to aske me a stupid run-of-the-mill question I will give you such an honest unexpected answer that youwon’t know what to do what to dowith it. Conversation over. Becausee you obviously weren’t ansking a qesuion you wanted to know an answer to anyway.

Shame: The Gift That Keeps On Giving

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I have been all over the chronic pain/illness blogs during the last few days, and one theme keeps emerging. Interestingly, it is a theme that I have been tangling with in my real life as well. That theme is the shame attached to being sick.

In my case, the hit is twofold. Not only am I sick, but I have chosen to talk about it publicly. Not only have I done the, “Oh poor me, I feel so sick so much of the time,” thing- which by the way is totally legit and by the way I don’t fault anybody for when, in fact, they do feel so sick so much of the time- but I have also blogged more recently about the dark underbelly of being chronically ill. I have laid it bare, and it is unbelievable- even to me- how unpalatable some people find that truth.

Even *h, who lives this life on a daily basis, was so horrified by what I put out into the public domain that if I tried to express it in words it would be like comparing the Titanic to an inflatable pool toy. Yeah, it was that bad. Sorry, *h.

What is a bit mind-bending to me is how all of us sickies have bought into the idea that we SHOULD feel a sense of shame for being sick. We already feel physically bad, but then we take it upon ourselves to feel guilty and horrible for being sick in the first place. Not only are we constantly apologizing for the fallout from us being sick- cancelled appointments, broken commitments, underperforming, etc.- but then we heap shame on top of it and feel like we have to apologize for feeling poorly in the first place.

We feel guilty for not finding the right doctor, the right treatment, the right therapy- as if a miracle cure is just right around the corner playing a child’s game of hide-and-seek and if only we would look hard enough we could win the game. But chronic illness doesn’t play by the same rules as acute illnesses like strep throat. It isn’t one of those things where you can take a course of antibiotics and get better, and if those antibiotics somehow defy expectations and don’t work you can just take a different one. We don’t have a broken bone you can set and leave to mend. We are unmendable. And it’s often easier for our loved ones to blame us for not trying hard enough to get well than to lose faith in the medical establishment. Because if they believe the blame lies with us for not getting better then they can also believe the power lies within us to get well.

But chronic illness is not such a tidy package. So we feel ashamed that we carry this taint. We are marked by the scarlet I. Every time we repeat our medical history we have to either be apologetic or defensive. When doctors incredulously ask us which medicines we’ve been on we look like drug seekers or hypochondriacs. Believe me, we’ve wondered whether we are too. And we often feel as ashamed as you are willing to make us feel about being on all those meds.

When good Samaritans offer well-meaning advice some people with a chronic illness feel attacked and overwhelmed. They feel like they have to devote their already paltry resources (of time, money, and energy) to pursuing those ideas, however tenuous they may be, just so they can honestly say yes, they have tried an all-yogurt diet; yes, they have tried hanging upside down to sleep; yes, they have tried hyperbaric oxygen treatments; yes, they have tried holding a séance in their bedroom… Some of this they may even believe could hold out some hope for them- after all, your cousin’s neighbor’s best friend’s dog groomer got TOTALLY CURED by doing this thing! But mostly they feel beaten down that they are still sick and ashamed that they are slackers who have not, in fact, tried every single thing in order to get better, which does, in fact, imply that maybe they want to stay sick. Right?

Wrong. This may come as a big shock to some people, so I will say it here first: sick people don’t want to be sick. Unless they have a mental problem (I am not making fun, I am just saying that some people with other types of problems may want to feign or prolong an illness but that’s beyond the scope of what I’m talking about here), people want to feel better. Having a sick day here and there to lay in bed and watch a movie might be a really relaxing break from the daily grind, and you may think from time to time that we have it easy. Trust me- you would never ever on your worst day want to trade places with us. And trust me, we are ashamed that we know you have these feelings. Especially those of us who have “invisible” illnesses, and who look okay on the outside, have incredible guilt that we are not able to function like the world thinks we should. We wish we could pull it together and get or hold or do better at a job. We wish we could socialize more (or at all). We wish we could __________________________________________ (please fill in whatever it is that you want us to be doing and we aren’t, because I’m sure it’s something we feel guilty about and just because you don’t say it doesn’t mean we don’t know it).

What has surprised me lately is that what is worse than suffering is talking about suffering. People are curious about things, but only to a point. If you violate the unspoken social contract and give Too Much Information, you will be shamed.

I should insert a caveat here and say that I have been on the other end of TMI conversations, and they are ugly things. There are definitely things I do not want to know about you, your spouse, your friends, or anyone else. And once something is said it can’t be unsaid. There was a woman in Detroit who used to tell people, “Everything you say has to be true, but not everything that’s true has to be said.” Great, huh?

My beef is with the boundaries of what should be shameful to talk about. One of the blogs I found yesterday was this one: http://duncancross.net/ It’s a pity he is taking a break from blogging, because I love his honesty. An entry on his site has a picture of a woman in a bikini (did I just drive up his traffic by a gazillion percent?) wearing an ostomy bag (he calls it an appliance) (did I just drive his traffic back down?). He speaks truthfully as someone with such an appliance about the struggle to have it not be a shameful thing. I love his courage. I am probably one of the most prudish people you would ever meet, but things like that should absolutely not be shameful to talk about.

I know that most of you didn’t come to this blog to read about the life of some sick lady in Seattle. I really want to thank you for sticking with me through so many trials and tribulations. I feel like I have been uniquely blessed in that I can articulate things that other people sometimes can’t. And so if I am going through something that I feel like other people can learn from, I want to put it out there. I’m sorry if it pushes the boundaries of propriety at times, and I’m sorry if it makes you cringe. This is my real life and I try to live it with integrity, even if that means sometimes I make the wrong decisions. What I really hope is that by me talking about what I struggle with I can give someone else out there the courage to say, “oh, me too…” and to help them feel less alone. I hope that by me standing up and taking the hits, maybe you won’t have to. Because once someone else has said it in public, it demystifies things and opens up a dialogue. So you don’t have to be ashamed. You are not alone.

You are not alone.

You are not alone.

Anger Manage-Me

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You know how sometimes you are in your car and someone cuts you off or does something obnoxious on the road and you want to shout at them or flip them off and you don’t because it crosses your mind that they might be a little bit crazy and escalate things and do something really horrible like kill you? Well I want to tell you that your instincts are good. Some people are not in their right minds. Some people will overreact to a tiny slight and want to do awful things. Sometimes I am one of those people.

If I was doing stand-up comedy, this would be super-hilarious, and I could make you roll on the floor laughing about what goes on in my mind when someone commits a minor transgression. However, I will back up to the last post and give you a prequel to this one.

I got some serious blow-back for writing openly about something as gruesome as suicidal thoughts. Apparently some things are better left unsaid, unspoken, and certainly unblogged about. But I wanted to throw some light into the darkness of chronic pain. I keep reading statistics (which I then forget because I am still medically-induced dumb) about how many people suffer from chronic pain or chronic illness- which means there is a good chance that many of you out there reading this blog either suffer or know someone who does. Even the language is telling: people SUFFER- we don’t own an illness, we don’t attach to an illness, we suffer from pain. Get it? Okay. So I wrote that post, which was perhaps too real for some people. Perhaps it was too in-your-face and too Oh-My-Gosh. But it was very raw and very real and 100% true, so for all the crud I got about posting it, I left it up. Let people see my dirty laundry and then maybe they can have more insight into people close to them who don’t tell/won’t tell/can’t tell.

Well now I’m about to tell again. Because of the cocktail of my life, I am simmering with anger. Because of my background, I am willing to stand and fight. That’s great when there is a bully around, but not so great when the “bully” is someone who has too many items in their grocery cart (which by the way, I did a few weeks ago, not realizing I was in an express line. Nobody said anything until I got up to the cashier, and then he told me and I sincerely apologized like 5 times. But I hate when people knowingly take advantage. So yes, I am possibly a hypocrite too.) or someone who gives me an angry look or someone who does any number of relatively harmless things.

A few days ago I was standing with a group of friends on a corner. As we stood there, other friends who were out walking joined us, until our group not only monopolized the corner, but also spilled into the street. When a car came and tried to drive around the round-a-bout, the driver gave us a really disgusting look, I guess for daring to stand in her section of the road, and drove very slowly so we could be sure to see her face. And I swear to you, had she continued to drive slowly, or had she stopped or yelled anything, I probably would have kicked out her tail light. Had she gotten out of the car, it would have been game-over. As some of the husbands tried to herd the wives away from the street, I just fumed, “Who does she think she is looking at us like that? Curse word, bad word, mean word…” I was so angry I could have come apart. That lady really has no idea how lucky she is that she just kept driving.

Yesterday *h informed me that T-mobile, our new cell phone carrier (and I am calling them out by name for a reason) will charge us if we want a detailed bill sent to us. I am a paper bill person. I need to see what I’m doing, and have something to file after I’ve looked it over and paid it. Computerized transfers don’t work for me. So if we want to know how much we owe them, and then just give them money over the computer, it’s all good. But if we want a monthly bill, it will cost $1.99. So I said, okay, then I am going to start charging T-mobile for the checks I write to them. I will charge them $1.99, and we can deduct that from the bill, which I am happy to explain to them, and then we will be even. Poor *h. He got his, “I knew I shouldn’t have told you this” face on, and then he said,, “Okay, then we are going to end up owing them a bunch of money and they will put us in collections. Is that what you want?” To which I replied, “And I will sue them in small claims court for this ridiculous charge to be refunded- which, by the way you know is going to spark a class action lawsuit anyway so who cares- and it will all work out fine.” Diplomatic *h said he plans to print out our bill for me every month from the computer so we can avoid this whole mess, which I told him is quite beside the point. Charging us to bill us is so ludicrous I can’t even think of an absurd enough analogy to compare it to. And I am the queen of analogies. But I was so mad I could almost see stars.

I know that in the course of a normal day, people get mildly upset. I, however, get meteorically furious. I don’t explode, and I don’t go around wreaking the havoc that I dream about, but sometimes I feel like I am a whisper away. I see by the look on people’s faces sometimes when I’m talking, that the way I am interpreting a situation is not the way most people would deal with it. Sometimes I think I just have a more ghetto approach to life than they do, but I have been living a middle-class life for a long long time now…

I know that my anger is not the problem, but a symptom of other things, so I need to get those other things in order. I am working on it. Meanwhile, I mostly save my rants for the privacy of my own home and the ears of close friends (who all probably think I am a lunatic by now). Oh, and my long suffering blog readers, who know that underneath my crazy is a good heart, and who (mostly) don’t judge me too harshly.

The main thing is, you should know that your impulses to avoid confrontation are smart. There are crack-pots out there like me who would crack skulls if given a half-decent excuse. I am not telling you to let people walk all over you (really, though, I guess in some measure I am), but I am telling you to be careful. For me, I have a lot to learn. I told a friend on Saturday that I wish I could go to AA without being an addict so I could learn how to have grace- and she told me you can. So that’s pretty interesting, and also somewhat compelling. So many ex-addicts seem so calm to me, and so serene. That’s what I need right now. Grant me the serenity…

Breaking Badly

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Imagine me, gun in mouth, finger on trigger.

I will tell you why this didn’t happen, but e first, a big thank you to everyone who has been reaching out by commenting on previous posts, sharing your support and love.

A few days ago I hit a really scary wall. I haven’t been there in a long time. I was in so much pain, and it was so intolerable, that I honestly contemplated suicide. Yes, my religion prohibits suicide. Yes, I believe God has a plan and purpose for each person in the world. Yes, I am a “true believer” (whatever that means).

But, like all honest humans, I struggle.

And a few days ago, I had such unrelenting pain that I didn’t feel like I could cope with it. It was so bad I didn’t feel like I could survive a ride to the hospital to get pain medicine, and they can’t give you strong meds in an ambulance (as far as I know.) I actually whined to my son and begged him to get me a cold washcloth for my neck, and then cried because it wasn’t cold enough. I begged him in tears to hurry and make it colder, and I frightened him with how crazy I was acting, but I was out of my mind with pain. The world was a blur.

Then I threw up on my floor and the thought crossed my mind in that one fleeting minute that I could just end it all right there. And I quickly cycled through why not to use a gun, why I should not do it when I was alone with the kids, why I should lay still for another minute- but the whole time there wasn’t really a compelling reason why I should live. And then I believe God saved me and shifted the pain to a more manageable level.

When I came to my senses, I realized had been a dangerous place to be. The first thing in my mind should have been my family. It should have been a list of things to live for. But I was overcome with wanting that hideous pain to end. I was truly lost in the agony.

Doctors always give you a pain scale to rate your pain, and 10 is like you are being tortured- so I never say 10, because I always think there is room for my pain to be worse than it is. So I have been in the hospital on a morphine drip and still said my pain was only a 9. But the other day I got to 10 and I broke.
What’s a girl to do?

Well, I’ve been looking on the internet for blogs on chronic pain and chronic illness. I am looking for tips and inspiration and camaraderie. In real life, I have had good friends offer to help me with various things, and I have said yes instead of trying to be tough and do things myself. I am reminding myself that the state I’m in now is temporary as I wean off of my medication, and as I level out, I will feel better. I put my pride aside and asked *h for a back rub, and I ask my kids for them all the time… I am trying to write about my struggles honestly on this blog, both so I won’t make them more horrible in my own mind and so I won’t downplay them when I make decisions.

I wish I was over this, but I know the only way to be through it is to go through it. So, here I am plodding with one foot in front of the other- some days slower than others, but each day making some progress.

We have a new diagnosis in the mix: central sensitization. You can look it up if you want. As with most labels, it is both exciting to have a name and demoralizing to have yet another problem. So now I have one more problem, but one more thing to try to solve and get help with.

Yay???

A Snapshot Of Pain

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On all fours, scrubbing the kitchen floor. Tipping over because too many things hurt too much to go anywhere besides down. Laying there thinking about how my doctor tells me, at every visit, that I need to be more physically active.

In the bathroom throwing up. Trying to lean my head against the back of the toilet tank to counter-balance the pressure that wants to explode my head apart. I know that if I can just finish throwing up I will feel better, but in order to get there I have to bear the unbearable pressure that happens every time I open my mouth. Eventually the edge of the tank feels too sharp, so I have to lay my cheek against the rim of the bowl, which is as disgusting as it is more nauseating. And it doesn’t help.

Looking into my daughter’s face as tears pour down her cheeks because I can’t go to her school’s parent night. She tries to be tough about most things, but this, inexplicably, is very important to her and *h is out of town. I am trying to find a substitute activity that will pacify her (read: bribe her to stop making me feel guilty), but it’s no use. The accumulation of disappointments is just too huge and she is too little and we are both going to get washed away by her sadness.

Deciding that I will try to be more positive and focus on what is good instead of what is wrong. I do a mental check over my body to find what doesn’t hurt. It is part of one finger on my left hand. I should laugh at how absurd that is, but I just want to go take a handful of pain pills instead. Not that I am suicidal, just that I want not to hurt so much. Luckily I care about my kids, so I don’t.

Sending a text yesterday to a friend who I invited over for a holiday meal about a month ago. The text is appropriate, but the subtext is: I am a loser. I can’t cope. I can’t follow through on my commitments. I uninvite her and her family a week before the holiday, and she understands, but for some reason instead of feeling relieved after I text her, I am in even more pain.

Laying in bed, trying to be very still- Very Very Still- because I have just gotten my system to calm down a little bit and I don’t want to lose that. This means, though, that nobody can move near me. Not talk, not whisper, not breathe. Nothing to disturb the currents of air around my bed, nothing to reorient the covers that touch any part of my body nor any part of the bedding that touches any part of my body. I can sometimes maybe talk through clenched teeth, not because I’m angry, but because I can’t move my face to talk. At some point, though, I lose the groove anyway, and pain screeches through me again- totally unprovoked.

In the bathtub. I can’t stay in, because I’m too hot and it’s making me sick. But I can’t get out because if I get chilled I will tense up and the ache will be worse than awful. My wet hair on my back feels like daggers on my skin, but twisting my arms around to pin it up feels like being tortured. I’m still at the point, though, where I’d rather do this than tolerate the humiliation of asking for help with such basic tasks. The phrase “hot mess” was invented for me right now.

On a rare trip to the store. Walking down the aisle. Feeling like the vertebrae in my neck are collapsing on each other the way the floors of the Twin Towers crushed the floors beneath them as the buildings came crashing down. Maybe my body is a victim of terror too, and maybe the way to describe me in this body is circa 9/11: trapped. Inside I’m doing what so many people did on that day. Silently screaming. And like on that day, nobody can hear me. My personal Groundhog Day seems to be this day, every day, one day, beige day, same day, different backdrop.

On a trip with my family. No, that doesn’t happen. Nor does going on dates with *h, taking my kids out just for fun, going anywhere that takes longer than 20 minutes in the car, planning anything without taking my health into consideration, or having a full 24-hour period without any health problems. Hard to live in my skin, but worse to be in my family. Substantially worse.

This is my life. I started writing this post a few days ago, but felt too sick to stay on the computer. I wrote it in bits and pieces, which is a great metaphor for my life- bits and pieces. Today is not as bad. I want to take a minute to acknowledge and appreciate the kindnesses the universe throws my way from time to time; this is how I survive. Today I can survive. Every day I can survive. Just some days are harder than others.

Is It Better To Have Lost Your Mind, Or Never To Have Had A Mind At All?

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Over the years on this blog I have tried hard to walk the line between being honest about my own life while still trying to respect the privacy of my family members. Once in a while I get out of balance with that, mostly when I’m overly stressed or just plain maxed out- and I’m afraid this is going to be one of those times…

Over the past few months *h and I have been going through an especially hard time. One of the medications I am on leaves me with the emotional sensitivity of a stapler- probably a broken stapler at that- and although *h has tried to be a trooper, it’s a real struggle to be married to someone with no emotional depth. The problem is that this is the one medicine that gives me decent relief from the skull-crushing headaches that I used to have every single day. And it is the only medicine I’ve been on that has been able to help at all. Trust me, I’ve tried tons (yes, alternative treatments too). I’ve been on this medicine before and had to go off of it for this very same reason, but this time I thought I could dodge the bullet. This time I was so enamored of life without migraines that I wanted to pretend I could cheat my fate. This time I was so numbed out and dumbed down by the medication that I didn’t care quite enough to pay attention that my personal life was circling the drain.

Last night I had a wake up call.

It doesn’t really matter what happened. What matters is this: I need to go down on my medicine. I need to take a dive back into the deep end of the pain pool. Knowing how frigid the water is makes it all that more hideous to jump back in, but I really have no other choice. The fact that I need to make this choice makes me want to scream. It makes me want to tear out my hair, rip up my face, rend my garments, and run barefoot over shards of glass through a forest until I lose the demon that is chasing me and I lose myself too. It makes me want to punch out the sky, strangle the oceans, and vomit all of my internal organs until they turn to dust.

The feeling that I can never get far enough away from my own self to have any peace is one that- to risk sounding redundant- I just haven’t made peace with. To be betrayed by myself, by my biology, by my physiology, by my chemistry, by my nature- it’s almost too much. It’s almost too many. That may not be grammatically correct, but it’s much more factually accurate.

We don’t often get the chance to show how much we are willing to sacrifice for our families. Here’s my opportunity to step up walk the walk that most people only wax poetic about when they first get married. *h puts up with a tremendous amount every day to keep our family afloat and it isn’t fair for him to suffer in silence.

I guess there isn’t too much more to say after that.

Comparing Apples And Oranges

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People always say things are like comparing apples and oranges, but I have never actually seen someone go ahead and really compare those two things directly to each other. So here, in the spirit of not shortchanging fruit, I present you my head-to-head tally.

I may be a bit biased, since I am a Michigan girl (apple state) living in Washington (apple state), but I have eaten my fair share of citrus fruit too over the years.

In no particular order:

Access to the fruit- Apples have to win. You just pick one up, shine it off, and bite right in. Not so with the more fussy orange. First you need something to get the skin started peeling, so unless you carry a pocket machete, or mini-cleaver, oranges are best eaten at home or pre-scored so they can be peeled. That’s just a hassle. Then you have the whole tangle of white stuff, and the membranes themselves which can be too tough to eat without doing the cow-chew. And oranges are seedy. Not that I blame a fruit for doing its best to procreate, but whereas the tidy apple keeps its private business all tucked away neatly in the core, the orange has its seeds all spread around in each of the sections- it’s like a football team sewing its wild oats. That’s just TMI from something I am about to eat. So for a low-maintainence snack that you can quickly throw in your gullet, apples are the clear winner.

Potential pitfalls- Sometimes you will get an apple that’s a bit mealy. This is especially heartbreaking when it looks like it will be nice and crunchy and then you take that first big bite and it’s like sinking your teeth into 5-hour-old oatmeal. Awful. But that’s about it. An orange, on the other hand, is like a minefield of possible failures. They can be dried out, even if they look fine (don’t you hate when inside of the individual sections the pieces are hard and white? What’s up with that?). They can be rotty and overly squishy, but not in that ripe delicious way that peaches are- just in a gross decomposing way that makes you feel like you have just eaten from the compost pile. The can be overly sour (yet not yummy tart like an apple would be under similar circumstances) or completely tasteless, and there doesn’t seem to be any reliable way to tell. Don’t get me wrong- when you get a good orange, it’s a thing of rapture. I’m not an orange-hater. On the contrary, I love oranges, which is why I’m so sad that so many of them are so yucky. Oh, and one more thing in this category- have you ever thought you swallowed a piece of orange, only to realize that because the membrane situation was so complex you only partially swallowed it and the other part was still caught somewhere in your mouth? Well I have and it has never happened to me with an apple. So guess who wins this one?

Color- Let me just put it out there that I am not artsy. When we moved into our house and it came to decorating it, I let each of the kids pick out a paint color for their rooms. Tada! That’s how fancy I am and how much I notice decoration. But the fact that apples come in such a wide variety of sizes and colors and shades and variations is kind of cool. The fact that oranges are, well, orange is just a bit boring. Even the name is kind of underwhelming. A bowl of apples on a table looks inviting, and since you can just grab one and eat it (see the first item above), it actually IS inviting. A bowl of oranges might match your decor if your kitchen is retro 1950s (or really hideous), but unless you are looking for an afternoon project, the bowl of oranges will just sit there being orange. How blah. Sorry oranges, but you’ve got no game. Gotta give the pop prop to the mad funky apple.

Price- Here’s where my Michigan roots (read: total bias) are really going to come into play. In Michigan you could get apples for 69 cents a pound. Yes! Take I-96 to Gratiot and go about 1 block North and you will find Randazzo’s, the best fruit market around, where not only do they have fabulous apples, but a wide selection and of really good quality produce and the best prices I ever found. When I moved to Seattle, I got kind of excited that since I would be so much closer to California, I would probably be able to get really good prices on fresh produce straight from Cali. Like, for example, oranges. But not so, friends. Not only can you not find a pepper in this part of the state for any reasonable price (I would tell you how much they charge here, but you may have an undesirable physical reaction…), but the California produce here is actually MORE EXPENSIVE in Washington than it was in Michigan! I have no explanation for why that is, but it’s the reality on the ground. So not only can I not get nice fresh oranges from a state that’s practically my neighbor, I am still paying way too much for them. And even though I am overpaying for apples as well (a bargain here is more like $1.69/pound, and that hurts…) they are STILL cheaper than oranges. Even though I should call this a draw just for gentlemanly reasons, I have to give this one to the team apple…

Johnny Rotten- Can we talk about that powdery mildew that grows on oranges, seemingly out of nowhere, and then spreads like the plague? The stuff that’s white and then gets greenish blue and makes the orange collapse in on itself like a supernova? That’s just wrong. An apple at least has the decency to get a bruise that you can cut out and salvage the rest of the apple. But the poor orange gets that stuff and anything in its path is just a goner.

I think you can see where this is heading. I feel like the poor orange is just getting pulverized, and that shouldn’t be the case. Oranges have lots of redeeming qualities: they make way better juice than apples (apple juice is one thing I have always found disgusting). They are fantastic in the whole Julius thing, and adorable as mandarins. They are easier to share than apples, and they don’t brown if you leave them open on the table. I’m sure there are other good qualities, and maybe some of you coastal folks can share them with me. Until then, though, I’m gonna have to call this contest in favor of the apples. So for all future discussions, let’s find something else to compare…

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